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Honest, practical information packs for mums navigating separation, high conflict co-parenting and family court.

Rebuilding: From Separation to Safe Co-Parenting, ebook cover

The new ebook

Rebuilding: From Separation to Safe Co-Parenting

The calm, practical help I wish I had been given. It takes you from the first disorientating days of separation through the divorce process, high conflict co-parenting, family court and Cafcass, with the next steps and the words to use. It also helps you calm your own nervous system, and your child's.

  • What to do first, where to go and who to turn to
  • The divorce and financial process in England and Wales, step by step
  • Communication rules, scripts and message templates for difficult co-parents
  • How to prepare for Cafcass, court and a final hearing
  • Printable worksheets, a glossary and answers to the questions mums ask most
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Your First Steps Through Separation, free starter information pack

Free starter information pack

Your First Steps Through Separation

A free starter information pack for women navigating divorce and separation, from the Finding Steady series. Calm, practical ideas you can use today, from someone who has been through it.

  • Your nervous system, and a two minute pause for when a message lands
  • The Principle of Less, with scripts and a worked example
  • A gentle first weeks checklist and a printable support list
  • A light outline of what happens next in England
Free
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For high conflict co-parenting

High Conflict Co-Parenting

A practical information pack for mums co-parenting with a difficult ex, for when standard co-parenting advice simply does not work. Previously called Steady Through the Storm.

  • The Grey Rock Method, with real examples
  • Scripts for messages, handovers and difficult situations
  • What to do when they do not show up, and at Christmas and school holidays
  • Communication and incident logs you can print
  • Before you meet a solicitor or Cafcass
£14
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Narcissistic abuse

Surviving a Narcissist

The complete information pack for spotting the signs, leaving safely and rebuilding after narcissistic abuse, through separation, court and beyond.

  • How to recognise narcissistic patterns early
  • Staying safe while the relationship is still active, and planning a safe exit
  • Scripts for gaslighting, DARVO and hoovering
  • Housing, money and work after leaving
  • Co-parenting with a narcissist, and healing afterwards
£14
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"For the first time, I feel like I can deal with difficult situations without completely losing myself in them. Lauren hasn't changed my ex. She's helped me change how I respond to him, and that has changed everything for me."

— Cassie, 43

"I'm still rebuilding, but I finally feel like I'm finding myself again."

— Chloe

"I'm starting to understand my reactions, make sense of what I've been through and be kinder to myself in the process."

— Sarah

"She listens, she understands and she offers a safe space to regain what you thought you had once lost!"

— Alice

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Family court preparation

The Cafcass Interview

Honest, practical preparation for the Cafcass interview, written by someone who has sat in that chair. What Cafcass is assessing, what to expect, and how to talk about concerns calmly and credibly. Previously called Prepared.

  • The process step by step, from first call to final hearing
  • The questions they ask, with strong and weak answers
  • How to talk about domestic abuse and safeguarding
  • What to expect when your child is interviewed
  • A preparation checklist and notes pages
£14
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Nervous System Healing After Abuse information pack cover

Healing and regulation

Nervous System Healing After Abuse

An information pack explaining why your body reacts the way it does after abuse and high conflict, with practical tools to help you feel steadier. Previously called Feel Safe Again.

  • The nervous system, trauma responses and the window of tolerance
  • Grounding, breathwork and movement you can use daily
  • Regulating during court and co-parenting triggers
  • Grief, identity and rebuilding after trauma
  • A crisis toolkit and a 30 day reset plan
£15
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For after handovers

Helping Your Child After Handovers

Helping your child feel safe, regulated and unquestioned when they come home to you. A practical information pack for the moments after a handover, from lived experience and trauma-informed parenting training. Previously called The Safe Parent.

  • Why handovers are so hard on a child's nervous system
  • A simple four step re-entry routine
  • Calm down tools for toddlers, primary age children and teens
  • What to say when they talk about the other home
  • A feelings chart, a handover log and a note for school
£14
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Print and write template

Parenting Plan Template

A clear, child focused template for separated parents to complete together or with a mediator or solicitor, so your arrangements are in writing and easy to follow.

  • Residence, contact, holidays and handovers
  • Communication, decisions, costs and technology
  • A worked example and a holiday planner
  • Dispute resolution, review dates and signatures
£10
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